Why is Feeling Sexy Important To Your Mental Health?

Take A Sip of Sexy.

Your version of sexy is not the same as the next lassie’s. Being funny is sexy. Being authentic is sexy. Being mysterious is sexy. Being sexy is sexy.

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Hello everyone.

And welcome back to our scheduled Sunday programming of Sip Sip.

I have had writer’s block for what feels like eons and it is pissing me off. This happens to me a few times a year. I get such severe ADD that I can’t focus on anything and I (consequently) get distracted by everything.

Crumb on the counter? Distracted. Can’t write. Scarf on the chair? Need to put that away before I write. Loud music in the coffee shop? Too loud. Can’t write.

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If I’m not paralyzed by fear of what people will think of the content I’m producing or fear of making a deadline, I’m paralyzed by the 8 million projects I said yes to. And whose fault is it for taking on 8 million projects at once? YOURS. No, I know it’s mine.

The cure? CLEANING. Cleaning the house, cleaning the car, cleaning my closet, cleaning the bathroom sink, cleaning the dirt off my shoes, cleaning the bookshelf, and, finally — cleaning my brain fog.

You see, when your mind is clear, everything is clear. This is the reason fitness addicts are fitness addicts. Working out clears their brain fog! As Psychotherapist and Resilience Coach Peg Sadie told me last week:

“The amount of clutter you have (even if you can't see it) can directly affect your physical and mental health. You're more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, weight gain, headaches, and insomnia than those who routinely get rid of their excess stuff.”

THE CLARITY!!!

In closing on this obnoxiously long intro, if anyone has SPECIFIC tips on easing ADD, please, for the love of Goddess, tell me. I need help right now.

And now my very smooth segue into this week’s topic…

What does feeling sexy have to do with mental health?

An untapped area of mental wellness is sexiness — aka how you feel in your body. It’s important to feel sexy not because it’s important to look sexy (although, why not), but because when you feel good about yourself via *the skin you’re in* as they say, you become more confident — in the bedroom, in the boardroom, and every other area of life that garners attention from you.

Feeling sexy, as far as I see it, is synonymous with feeling confident. When you feel sexy, you glide — not walk — across a room. When you feel sexy, you flip your hair like a supermodel and you hold your glass of wine like a Parisian princess.

How are we supposed to feel sexy in the dead of winter with dry skin and dark roots, you ask?

For me, there is no better feeling than getting into a freshly clean bed (naked of course) right after I am freshly showered. This is when I feel my sexiest. I also reach peak sexiness when I am wearing a luxurious, soft fabric like silk.

So my question for you this week is…when do you feel your sexiest?

Experiment this week and let me know! Let me know about the ADD tips, too now.

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A “successful” (eye roll) writer once told me not to thank my readers for reading my material because it makes me seem like less of an authority…and I think that’s complete bullshit.

So, Thank You for reading.

I so appreciate you taking the time to read my newsletter and I do hope it helps improve your life in some way! This is why I write it. My ultimate hope is that it makes you laugh. LAUGHING…Laughing is sexy. I forgot that one.

Be you. A sexier you.

Xo, Ash