How To Feel Like Yourself Again

Ahh it feels good to be meeeeee

Happy Tuesday To Yee!

I went to a fashion show over the weekend and I felt SEEN. Fashion people are my people, and it’s been so long since I’ve been to an event that *lights me up* that I almost forgot that.

And it got me thinking…

If one night of fashion holds the power to get me out of a funk and make me feel like *me* again, it can make you feel like *you* again, too.

And when I say “it,” I mean whatever makes you feel like your true, fabulous, unfiltered self. Because let me tell you…there is no better feeling.

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If you haven’t been feeling like yourself lately (you know the feeling), take the following into consideration for perspective — and to get your bad self back.

How you treat other people is a reflection of how you treat yourself — and vice versa. If you’re finding yourself scoffing at your coworker for asking how your weekend was or rolling your eyes at your “annoyingly happy” neighbor, it’s time to shape up and ship out.

Because it’s not your annoyingly happy neighbor that’s pissing you off — it’s you judging yourself for not being able to be as happy-go-lucky to walk the dog as Shirley across the street is.

Deep down, you know your judgmental behavior is about you not feeling like your peakity-peak perky self. And hey, it happens to literally everyone, so don’t beat yourself up.

THANKFULLY! There are things we can do to calm the bitchy beast within us simply by reconnecting with what (and whom!) makes us feel like *us.*

Here they are:

Do something enjoyable without beating yourself up for it not being productive.

Brené Brown has a new series on HBO Max right now (highly recommend giving her a watch) where she explains that humans need to (1) Rest and (2) Play in order to function properly each day.

For me, this is coloring pictures and mailing them to my friends with weird captions that I think are funny. Also reading fiction.

Do something that will make yourself proud of you.

Be it a career achievement, a precious motherhood moment, or reaching out to someone you know could use a friend, do it with authenticity.

Small gestures that make other people feel warm and fuzzy inside will make you feel warm and fuzzy inside, and will remind you of how capable you are by simply. being. yo-self.

Do something that will make you laugh.

Laughing truly is underrated. It is medicine, it is healing, it is fun, it is energizing, it is all of it.

If you appreciate bitchy humor, I have recently discovered The Bitch Bible podcast by Jackie Schimmel. While it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, I highly recommend.

TAKEAWAY

The point of all of this is to take yourself less seriously (so you can be your real, raw self).

When you take yourself out of your head, out of your bubble, and think about how ginormous and complex and weird and magical the world actually is, your perspective changes.

Being yourself is the only way you win in life.

Cheers. Thank you for reading and continuing to support my work. You are fabulous.

Be you.

Xo, Ash