How To Change Your Mindset From "How Many Likes Am I Going To Get?" To "Who Can I Help Right Now?"

A worthwhile self-improvement experiment!

Replacing bad habits with good ones has been my thing lately.

I can feel Jake rolling his eyes at this because I have a new “thing” every day.


Granted, it is a long, arduous practice. So hopefully it stays my thing forever. What I can tell you after one week of trading my late night couch snacking for a cold glass of oat milk and falling asleep to a book instead of Netflix, is that replacing bad habits with good habits is a practice well worth its while.

And It Got Me Thinking…

During the day, I often find myself obsessively checking email to make sure I didn’t miss a message from someone important. Or I send myself into a preemptive anxiety attack over something I did the week prior that I regretted, causing a whole mess of negative emotions.

What do we gain, exactly, out of torturing ourselves? Other than increased anxiety, stress, and probably wrinkles?


This unpleasant, dare I say, self-obsessed habit made me think back to a therapy session where I told my therapist I felt I didn’t deserve to be happy.

Why I felt this way — which I sometimes still wrestle with — is complicated to explain, but stemmed from a combination of how I grew up, things I was told as an emerging adult in the realm of relationships and career, and things I quite literally made up along the way.

Instead of falling victim to these ludicrous mind-fucks that serve no purpose other than making us feel terrible, we can stop them from happening altogether — simply by taking the focus off ourselves, and placing it onto someone else.

Having go-to Distract Me hotlines is something I’m going to give a whack at this week.

And I am excited about it. So I thought I would share the idea with you, in case you want to experiment along with me.

The gist: When I catch myself tormenting over how many article views I got or comparing a successful, decade-long business to my mere ideation of a company, I’m going to stop, put my phone down, take a deep breath, and reach out to a mental health organization, offering my help.

The trick (the catch?) of course, is to do this repetitively, so much so that it becomes habitual.

Dress Your Mind Right

Setting our minds up for success (much in the same way we dress our bodies for success) is a surefire way to garner positivity, feel-good vibes, and killer self-confidence.

In turn, our chances of doing good in the world increases significantly.

Taking itty bitty baby steps (daily) toward improving ourselves ends up doing so much more than making us feel better. The payoff of these routine habits is that it ends up improving everything and everyone we come in contact with.


As always, thank you for reading. Let me know how your good habits practicing is going! If you like this post (or this newsletter in general), please do spread the love.

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Be you.

XOXO,

Ashley