4 Tips on Building Self-Esteem When You're Feeling Ew About Yourself

Mar 29

According to Mind, “Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can sometimes feel really difficult to change. Your self-esteem can affect whether you like and value yourself as a person, recognize your strengths and positives, and believe you deserve happiness.”

Helllooo Friends.

I am somewhat still in a funk (and therefore still annoyed), and I know it’s because I am socially dehydrated. I miss my friends.

And when I don’t get my friendship fill (different than a social fill), I get down. Oddly, my self-esteem takes a hit when I’m not with my lady squad.

This is the reason I want to implement Seasonal Lady Retreats where every season, we enjoy the pampering of fancy wellness retreats in different cities in order to recharge our depleted selves — all the while raising awareness for the importance of Women’s Social Health. Let me know if you want in.

For today’s newsletter…

We all have those days where we wake up with a blemish on our face, receive a passive-aggressive email from our boss, and put on our jeans only to find they don’t button.

Our self-esteem is like our weight and our moods. It fluctuates.

No matter what causes your self-esteem to plummet (which is normal and everyone experiences), know that you can get it back!

Here are 4 things that always lift my spirits when I’m feeling meh about myself.

Go to the book store and read a children’s book.

Children’s books are FILLED TO THE BRIM with life lessons in the realm of confidence and staying true to who you are. I’m convinced they are written for adults more than they are for kids.

Watch an empowering movie.

Don’t underestimate the power of a good movie. On my list currently are House of Gucci, CODA, Being The Ricardos, and Encanto.

Give advice to a friend.

Or check in with a friend you know is struggling with something. HINT: We are all struggling with something.

When we do things that make other people feel better, we end up feeling better as a result. The irony!

Buy something for a friend/family member.

And send it to them in the mail. Not off Amazon to have it shipped to their house. Go to an actual brick-and-mortar store, pick out something *special* and send it out with a cute personal touch.

TAKEAWAY

While getting our hair done and ordering a new maxi dress will give us that hit of dopamine we’ve become far too accustomed to crave, that high is fleeting.

What’s long lasting is our relationships with people, our ability to shake negative thoughts, and wellness habits that work for us.

Thank you for reading. You reserve the right to feel good about who you are, every damn day.

Be you. A more self-assured you.

Xo, Ash

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